Bøger af Faith G. Harper

In a no-nonsense guide on how to cope with mental-health issues, Harper explains what's going on in our skulls, and talks us through the process of retraining our brains to respond appropriately to the non-emergencies of everyday life.

Boundaries are the ways we communicate our needs. They are what allow us to feel safe among strangers, in everyday interactions, and in our closest relationships. When we have healthy boundaries, we have a strong foundation in an uncertain world. And when someone crosses your boundaries, or you cross someone else's, the results range from unsettling to catastrophic. In this book, bestselling author Dr. Faith Harper offers a full understanding of issues of boundaries and consent, how we can communicate and listen more effectively, and how to survive and move on from situations where our boundaries are violated. Along the way, you'll learn when and how to effectively say "no" (and "yes"), troubleshoot conflict, recognize abuse, and respect your own and others' boundaries like a pro. You'll be amazed at how much these skills improve your relationships with friends, strangers, coworkers, and loved ones.

Are other people constantly intruding on your personal space, using your stuff, disrespecting you, and otherwise violating your boundaries? You can't control what they do, but you can control how you understand and communicate your own needs and make choices about how you behave and respond to the people around you. Dive deep into self-work with this interactive guide that can be used alone or as a companion to Dr. Faith's book Unfuck Your Boundaries. You'll learn about how to give and get consent, how to make sure you're stating your boundaries clearly and being understood, how to decide what is a dealbreaker, how to deal with boundaries in group settings, how to identify abuse, and how to hold yourself accountable to respecting the boundaries of others. Helpful to anyone trying to figure out healthier intimate relationships, better workplace dynamics, difficult family drama, or just how to be more confident in your own skin.

If you've ever been so pissed off that you did things that you regretted, or ruined your own day and some other people's too, this book is for you. Or if you feel angry every single day and it's affecting your health and sleep and love of life. Or if you've got very good reasons to be mad as hell, and you aren't going to take it anymore. Or if you've repressed your anger all your life and now it's all coming out at once. Microcosm Publishing bestseller Dr Faith explains here what the hell is going on in your brain and how to retrain yourself to deal with enraging situations more productively and without torpedoing your relationships. This is Your Brain on Anger gives you a heady dose of neuroscience and cultural explanation of what anger is and what it does to you, and then gives you a handy four-step checklist to help you deal with maddening situations after (or before) the fact, guidance on getting over things, and a chapter on forgiveness. Your brain actually knows what it's doing, and anger can be a good thing sometimes--just not if it's ruining your life.

We have almost all been addicted to something at some point, or had a habit spiral out of control. But what does that mean? What exactly are addictions and out of control behaviors, why do we get caught up in them, and how do we get our lives back? Bestselling author Dr. Faith Harper helps those of us struggling (or supporting others) with problematic use of alcohol, drugs, gambling, work, food, sex, shopping, screens, gaming, or anything else where we've crossed a line. Their perspective is down to earth, realistic, and refreshing. You'll learn about the brain science behind addiction, how to tell if something is a problem or about to become one, how to find your way out of unhealthy behaviors, and how to avoid passing them down to the next generation. No matter what paths you've taken in life, you can absolutely learn to fulfill your needs in ways that are healthy for yourself and the people around you.

Anxiety can control your life with a tight grip. Get yourself free with these exercises and worksheets designed to help you identify, manage, and ultimately calm your anxiety, be it stress that ebbs and flows or constant, chronic panic. Work through this book either by itself or as a companion to Dr. Faith G. Harper's bestselling Unfuck Your Anxiety. Figure out the history of your anxiety and how and when it makes itself known, and learn basic tools for surviving moments of panic as well as longer-term problem solving.

Untangle your emotions and expectations about money so that you can live your best financial life. Without fear and shame holding you back, it''s more possible to move past all those social barriers to actualising whatever your money aspirations are, whether that''s getting a raise, getting out of debt, having honest conversations about money with your family, raising your kids to be savers, or wherever your values lead you. Dr. Faith, author of the bestselling Unf*ck Your Brain and Unf*ck Your Intimacy, tackles one of the toughest emotional topics there is with her trademark mix of neuroscience, gentle encouragement, and no-nonsense language. This book isn''t about getting rich quick (or necessarily at all) it''s about figuring out your own economic values and baggage, and learning to be the person in the world you know you have it in you to be.

What turns you on? Maybe it's something vanilla, but chances are good that there's more to it than that. Dr. Faith G. Harper, sexologist, therapist, and author of bestselling titles like Unfuck Your Intimacy and Unfuck Your Blow Jobs, tackles the whys, whats, and how-tos of the very wide range of human erotic experience--much of which doesn't involve actual touching. She debunks myths, explains the science behind why we like what we like, and discusses how to engage safely, shamelessly, and satisfyingly in BDSM, pornography, fantasies, role-play, and fetishes both common and rare. Whatever gets you off, there's a way for you to feel good while feeling good about yourself. Leave shame behind and let the sex positivity resound! Missed the Kickstarter? You can still access all of the reward tiers and add-ons through PledgeMaster!

Sex toys, sex tools, sexual aids--whatever you call them, they have the potential to revolutionize your sex life. Whether you use them solo, partnered, or in group play, sex tools can bring you to new heights of pleasure, teach you about your body, affirm your identity, and liberate you from physical or emotional constraints. But damn, they can be expensive if you buy them new. Sexologist and therapist Dr. Faith is all about making sure you know how to get off safely and on a budget, and provides instructions for making a variety of do-it-yourself toys without breaking the bank or taking an embarrassing trip to the ER. She discusses the different types of sexual aids out there, how to figure out what you like, and construction and use of various devices, focusing throughout on safety and hygiene. These 19 projects can be done at home with materials you probably already have. River Katz's illustrations provide clarity, inspiration, and step-by-step instructions.

Are you stressed as fuck and you're not sure you can take it anymore? You're not alone. And it's very possible you're experiencing burnout--a legit mental health condition that's usually only regarded as being work-related, but that is 100% absolutely possible for anyone who is chronically stressed and overwhelmed with whatever they're doing in life, from school to parenting to activism to just existing during a pandemic. Dr. Faith gets it, and has been there, and offers an overview of what we understand about burnout and individual as well as relational strategies that really work for getting yourself out of it. Because, sure, sometimes you can fix burnout by taking a day off for self care, but usually it takes a more social-relational-level change--and that is totally possible!

"Food is complicated. And our relationships with food and eating are all kinds of fucked up. It doesn't help that cultural messages about health, diet, body image, and weight are fatphobic and often medically dangerous. Dr. Faith Harper, author of the bestselling Unfuck Your Brain and Unfuck Your Body, brings her trademark combination of science, humor, and real talk to help us work through our food, health, and body image issues and develop a healthier relationship with food so that it can fuel us and bring us pleasure. She delves into the difference between eating disorders and disordered eating and the causes and consequences of both, breaks down the difference between various behaviors, tackles trauma and other co-occurring conditions, and provides compassionate and practical steps to improve your eating habits and repair your relationship with yourself."--

A common thread through much self-help and therapy and trauma healing is to focus on what's misfiring in the brain and learn coping skills to fix it. But what if it's the world that's broken, not you? What if your brain is doing exactly what it's designed to do in response to your experiences with abuse, neglect, oppression, displacement, violence, or upheaval? With this workbook, learn to see your strength and resilience, look at what's happening outside as well as inside yourself, and frame your trauma recovery in new, empowering terms using the groundbreaking new Power Threat Meaning framework.

Do you need support in achieving your goals? And maybe you're a visual thinker or a doer more than a writer? If journaling, lists, and worksheets leave you cold, try vision boarding. Dr. Faith walks you through the art and science of making a simple or complex visual representation of where you're going. This exercise can help you refine your goals in different aspects of your life, visualize the steps you need to take to achieve them, and focus on the process of getting there. Then, once you've made it and celebrated, your vision board can serve as a reminder of your success and a jumping off place for your next big thing.

For decades, the U.S. has been obsessed with "self-esteem" or rather with our lack of it. But self-esteem isn't actually that great, and getting all puffed up about yourself isn't exactly a recipe for the good life. How about self-compassion instead? Bestseller Dr. Faith explains the difference between the two and offers some helpful exercises in developing more compassion for yourself. It's actually very different, she explains, than letting yourself off the hook for your bullshit. It's more helpful to accept that you're human so that you can learn and grow rather than push aside your problems or wallow in your mistakes. Also, kindness to yourself helps you be more kind to other people as well. Everyone wins!

The big question behind emotional eating, or many other problematic behaviors, is: What are you really hungry for? Dr. Faith breaks it down into five possibilities: relief, control, connection, meaning, and equanimity. In this small workbook zine, she defines all five, and then gives you plenty of space to work out what you are hungry for, how you are fulfilling those hungers now, and how you might approach them differently to find satiety.

Dating used to be a thing that most people did for a while. Now it's faded to take up a cramped and awkward space in between hooking up and instantly moving into together. If you woke up all alarmed and find yourself wanting all that old shit, letters and sodas, read this zine and get on with doing the stuff that makes up dating. Like having FUN, remember that? And trusting your guts. And taking it slow. Microcosm Publishing bestseller Dr. Faith breaks it down for you with good boundaries, wise counsel, funny jokes, and of course lots of swearing.

Real talk: The hardest part about parenting on a lot of days is keeping your cool when your kids are driving you absolutely batty. In your brain, you know that it's healthy for your sprogs to explore their surroundings, test their limits, learn everything the hard way, and try your patience, but in your heart you are just screaming and screaming. And your kids are also screaming so you're quite a team! Bonnie and Dr. Faith are therapists and parents and they're here to talk you off the ledge. Here's a no-nonsense guide to having empathy for your own frustration as well as strategies for helping your kids grow up to be respectful and kind adults themselves.

What does consent mean? Where does this idea come from, and why is it being talked about in a different way now than it was 20 years ago? More importantly, what does it have to do with any of us? How do we make sure we have the informed consent of everyone we interact with for the stuff we do that affects them? How do we make sure other people know what is and isn't okay with us? How do we navigate life in the post-#metoo era with dignity, respect, and confidence? Dr. Faith tackles all these questions and more, drawing on history, sociology, brain science, and her experience as a sex therapist to demystify the concept of consent and help us use it to have awesome lives and support each other's growth.

Finding a new therapist can be harder than dating! How do you know what to look for? Where do you even begin to look? Are you allowed to screen them before you start spilling your guts? What questions can you ask? How can you make sure they won't be biased against your identity? What if you're underage? What if you live in a rural area? What if it's a few sessions in and you aren't feeling it? Dr. Faith, a therapist herself, answers all these questions and more in this extremely helpful and reassuring playbook for finding your ideal mental health match. Whatever your need--depression, anxiety, trauma, addiction, relationship issues, family drama, discovering yourself, or just needing someone to listen to you without judgment--this guide has the stigma-busting info to help you get the support you need.

Microcosm Publishing bestseller Dr. Faith takes on the fabulous topic of... masturbation! In her usual style of combining hilariousness with science, she breaks down the history of societal shame around self-pleasure, and offers practical and straightforward whys and hows of exploring your sexuality on your own time. From the benefits of learning all the ins and outs of your own sexual response to a candid guide to shopping for and using sex toys, she addresses the needs of cis and trans folks, busts some myths, and gives some guidelines for talking to your kids about masturbation. She even includes book recommendations! There's a lot to this little zine, whether you're an experienced masturbator or a recent escapee from a fundamentalist cult.

Everyone's got goals. Maybe you're working towards single-payer health care in the US, or maybe you've set your sights on simply making it through a stressful doctor's appointment next week. Maybe you want to get out of debt, or maybe your goal is just to pay rent on time next month. Whatever your goals, big or small, there's a way to achieve them--and Microcosm Publishing bestseller Dr. Faith has broken it down into steps and produced this handy workbook that you can use to envision, plan, execute, rinse, repeat. Because now is an era in history where we need to be as effective as we can, at everyday functioning as well as leading the resistance.

How do you raise young people right in this mixed up world? Bestseller Dr. Faith and Bonnie Scott break it down into helpful lists. This zine contains plenty basic life skills that many of us maybe didn't learn until we were grownup (and maybe not even then). Teaching our kids everything from household chores to basic bodily care to economical holiday shopping is an overwhelming task. Here's some solid advice abound for whether you're parenting or teaching infants, older kids, or teens.

This is a zine for getting through it when life is piling it higher and deeper, the political and personal and social disasters that we know always come in waves. Getting Over It was about getting past whatever happened in the past; Surviving is about making it through the present. Even if you don't believe you can survive this, Dr. Faith believes it for you, and offers some basic tools that anyone can use to make it one more day.

Sex tools! Also known as sex toys or sexual aids, these essential tools for the good life include such devices as dildos, vibrators, butt plugs, scarves, ticklers, needles, and whatever your awesomely dirty mind can devise for the enhancing of sexual pleasure. In this outtake from her book Unfuck Your Intimacy, Dr. Faith walks you through all the reasons you might want to augment your solo or partnered sex with such items--from extra pleasure to accessibility to sheer efficiency--and gives you the rundown on where and how to shop, how to figure out what you like, good hygiene, and busting various myths (no, your vibrator won't electrocute you, but yes, you still shouldn't use it in the bath).

Are you freaking out about work? Horrified at the idea of getting to your workplace? Have a boss that makes you want to burn the world down? Microcosm Publishing bestseller Dr. Faith is here to the rescue in this quick-read zine dedicated to helping you get through those bad days when you're watching the seconds tick past until you can bolt home. Some of it may seem obvious at first, but how many times do you actually sit down and think about these things, or talk them through with others? If you're two steps from flipping your desk over and screaming, now might be the time to sit back, assess your priorities, and figure out how to survive the work you have while looking for the work you want. If you're in a work-related stress/emotional over-load, check out the detailed tips on things like not taking things personally from people that don't matter, owning your mistakes, giving praise whenever due (even to your self), getting what you need by knowing what it is, remembering who it is you're really supporting, and making escape plans to get you through!

Forgiveness is one of the most powerful things you can do for your own piece of mind. Dr. Faith brings us the whys and hows of forgiving the people who have hurt us the most, in her no-nonsense tone backed by brain science. To forgive is not the same thing as reconciliation, and it's definitely a far cry from being a doormat. Rather, it's an internal process that frees you from holding on to the hurts of the past and allows you to move forward into the future with an open heart. If you go through your days mired in anger about the terrible shit that other people have put you through, this zine is for you.

Is it time to get over it? You know, whatever the thing is that's got its claws in you--family stuff, addictions, awful things done to you or by you, a boss that sucks, anger towards your parents, resentment of a friend or a sibling, fear of catastrophic climate change, dread of running into your ex, the realization that you're never going to write songs like Patti Smith... Whatever it is that's weighing on you, it can seriously hold you back in life for a good long time. Moving on is, fortunately, more than possible, and whenever you're ready, Microcosm Publishing bestseller Dr. Faith is here to help. Get up on over that damn thing, with the kind, tough aid of Dr. Faith, who knows what is up.