Bøger af Susan Forward

Is this the way love is supposed to feel?• Does the man you love assume the right to control how you live and behave?• Have you given up important activities or people to keep him happy?• Is he extremely jealous and possessive?• Does he switch from charm to anger without warning?• Does he belittle your opinions, your feelings, or your accomplishments?• Does he withdraw love, money, approval, or sex to punish you?• Does he blame you for everything that goes wrong in the relationship?• Do you find yourself “walking on eggs” and apologizing all the time?If the questions here reveal a familiar pattern, you may be in love with a misogynist — a man who loves you, yet causes you tremendous pain because he acts as if he hates you.In this superb self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward draws on case histories and the voices of men and women trapped in these negative relationships to help you understand your man’s destructive pattern and the part you play in it.She shows how to break the pattern, heal the hurt, regain your self-respect, and either rebuild your relationship or find the courage to love a truly loving man.

El chantaje emocional es una poderosa forma de manipulación por medio de la cual las personas a nuestro alrededor amenazan con castigarnos si no hacemos lo que quieren que hagamos.Los chantajistas emocionales saben cuánto los valoramos, y conocen lo que nos hace vulnerables y nuestros secretos más íntimos. Pueden ser nuestros padres o hermanos, nuestros jefes o compañeros de trabajo, nuestros amigos o amantes. Sin importar cuán importantes seamos para ellos, se valen de todo lo que saben de nosotros para conseguir lo que quieren: que siempre cedamos.En Chantaje emocional, Susan Forward disecciona la anatomía de una relación dañada por la manipulación para proporcionar las herramientas necesarias a quienes son objeto de chantaje para contraatacar. Con su estilo claro y sin rodeos, Susan Forward describe los pasos a seguir por los lectores, ofreciéndoles diversas herramientas -listas, escenarios prácticos y técnicas concretas de comunicación- que fortalecerán las relaciones y romperán el ciclo del chantaje de una vez por todas."Forward, quien nos dio el gran bestseller Cuando el amor es odio, nos ofrece un curso de autodefensa para cualquiera que se encuentre manipulado a través de la culpa." —Library Journal"¡Siéntete aliviado! Susan Forward te ayuda a identificar y a corregir un patrón destructivo y confuso sobre la forma en que nos relacionamos con aquellos que amamos." —Susan Jeffers, autora de Aunque tenga miedo, hágalo igualENGLISH DESCRIPTIONA practical guide to better communication that will break the blackmail cycle for good, by one of the nation's leading therapists, Susan Forward.“Breathe a sigh of relief! Susan Forward helps you identify and correct an intensely destructive and confusing pattern of relating with those you love. I highly recommend this important book!"—Susan Jeffers, Ph.D., author of Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway"If you really loved me...""After all I've done for you...""How can you be so selfish..."Do any of the above sound familiar? They're all examples of emotional blackmail, a powerful form of manipulation in which people close to us threaten to punish us for not doing what they want. Emotional blackmailers know how much we value our relationships with them. They know our vulnerabilities and our deepest secrets. They are our mothers, our partners, our bosses and coworkers, our friends and our lovers. And no matter how much they care about us, they use this intimate knowledge to give themselves the payoff they want: our compliance.Susan Forward knows what pushes our hot buttons. Just as John Gray illuminates the communications gap between the sexes in Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, and Harriet Lerner describes an intricate dynamic in The Dance of Anger, so Susan Forward presents the anatomy of a relationship damaged by manipulation, and gives readers an arsenal of tools to fight back.

Over the course of thirty-five years as a therapist, Susan Forward has worked with a large number of women struggling to escape the emotional damage inflicted by the women who raised them. Subjected to years of criticism, competition, role reversal, smothering control, emotional neglect, and other forms of abuse, women raised by mothers who can't love are plagued by anxiety, depression, relationship problems, lack of confidence, and difficulties with trust. But as Forward explains, it is possible to heal the mother wound and find help and validation.Filled with compelling case histories, Mothers Who Can't Love looks at the devastating impact unloving mothers have on their daughters and provides effective techniques to help them overcome the pain of their childhoods, reclaim their confidence and self-respect, and break the cycle of emotional destructiveness for future generations.